Saturday, March 17, 2018

In Sickness and In Health

Over the last few days my wife and I had the misfortune of going through this years cold.  It was miserable, and for my wife it is still on-going.  Finally after about six days of cold medicine, cough drops, warm soup and lots of water I am at the point where I can go back to my regular job.

Through it all to support me was my wife, and now I get to support her as she gets back on her feet.  She thought out some good soups to make, worked diligently to keep the house clean even as she is suffering herself.  She allowed me the time to rest to recover, even though I couldn't really rest.  Too busy coughing.

Now that I am the healthy one I get to remember that it is time for me to step up and make her life more comfortable.

Thursday, March 8, 2018

A few words go a long way

Many people know the power of word and how even well intention words can be misinterpreted and a long cold night can follow.  On the other hand a few well chosen words can lead to a very pleasant evening.  After all the fun of dating we then get to have the fun of talking serious life discussions.  This is when some discussions can really put a downer on your perspective.

The nice thing about dating is the flexibility, the lack of the serious commitment and the always looking forward to being together.  Even with all that you may find that there are times when you just can't find the right thing to say.  There are several times that I would attempt to compliment her, but it would come across more as an unfair comparison.  This would usually lead to back tracking and rewording, and eventually just shutting up when I realized that all I was doing was digging a deeper hole. Even though we had our back and forth we didn't embed it in our memories as check marks against each other.

After some time we got married and the terminology changed.  Now we were talking about more serious stuff like our finances, what to do about our aging relatives.  Also added to that the fun of pets.  We would sometimes ruin our evening over discussion of finances, but the big benefit was that I could have that discussion with my wife.  This however put me on some shaky ground elsewhere.  If I didn't take the time to remind her of how important she was and how much she helped us, then I would end up with a very exhausted and sometimes bitter wife.  After some time there were just things that I expected her to do and sometimes I would forget to remind her how glad I was that she did these things. 

While it's really important for the major dates, Valentine's day, Birthday, and Anniversaries, it is also good to remember that it doesn't need to only be on those dates.  Take the extra words to remind her your love and appreciation, it's worth it. 

Diet and a Happy Marriage

One of the items that my wife and I have talked about a lot is our diet and fitness.  These are items we talk about because early in our ma...